Posts Tagged ‘Love’

To tell your tale is to heal

People like to hear
the funny
the amusing
the happy
the suspenseful

But they waver some
on the tragic
or unending
the devastating
or the horrifying

They say as an audience
Let it go
Forgive
Get on with life

Little do they know
telling has nothing to do
with unforgiveness

Telling is the river on the jagged rocks
It tells and flows
and tells and flows
and tells
and flows

over the very rocks
that cut
and bent
and bruised

After a time
the blood washes away
the water flows clear

And the rocks?

Those jagged cutting edges
are smoothed, softened.

Even the sound of the waters voice
changes from crashing
to song.

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Posted: November 10, 2013 in Quotes
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Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.

– Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Posted: November 4, 2013 in Quotes
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A life without love is a waste. “Should I look for spiritual love, or material, or physical love?”, don’t ask yourself this question. Discrimination leads to discrimination. Love doesn’t need any name, category or definition. Love is a world itself. Either you are in, at the center…either you are out, yearning.

~ Shams Tabrizi

  • Don’t confuse the teacher with the lesson, the ritual with the ecstasy, the transmitter of the symbol with the symbol itself.
    • The Tradition is linked to our encounter with the forces of life and not with the people who bring this about.
  • Pity those who seek for shepherds, instead of longing for freedom!
  • Everything moves, and everything moves to a rhythm. And everything that moves to a rhythm creates a sound.
  • What is a teacher? I’ll tell you: it isn’t someone who teaches something, but someone who inspires the student to give of her best in order to discover what she already knows.
    • The true teacher gives the disciple the courage to throw his or her world off balance, even though the disciple is afraid of things already encountered and more afraid still of what might be around the next corner.
  • It’s the same thing with repetition: it may seem the same, but it’s always different.
  • In order to forget the rules, you must know them and respect them.
  • The important thing is to allow fate to intervene in our lives and to decide what is best for everyone.
  • Like all storms, it will pass. The more violent it is, the more quickly it will pass.
  • We don’t believe that God made the universe. We believe that God is the universe and that we are contained in Him, and He in us.
    • … here we are part of everything and we celebrate rather than pray.
  • The truth is that with each step we take, we arrive.
    • You are on the right path… arriving with each step you take.
  • When we step out of our normal world and leave behind us all the usual barriers and prejudices, we tend to become more adventurous.
  • Everything is worship if you are focus on the present moment.
    • When you are washing up, pray. Be thankful that there are plates to be washed; that means there was food, that fed someone, that you’ve lavished care on one or more people, that you cooked and laid the table.
  • Laugh at your worries and insecurities. View your anxieties with humor.
  • … because we all know everything: it’s merely a question of believing.
  • Live now what others will only live in the future.
  • [Love] It cannot be held prisoner because it is a river and will overflow its banks. Anyone who tries to imprison love will cut off the spring that feeds it, and the trapped water will grow stagnant and rank.
  • Anyone who believes they have failed will always fail. Anyone who has decided that they cannot behave any differently will be destroyed by routine. Anyone who has decided to block all changes will be transformed into dust.
  • … there were two traditions, one that makes us repeat the same thing for centuries at a time, and another that opens the door into the unknown.
  • … common sense will prevail and religions will revert to being a refuge for the weak, who are always in search of guidance.
  • In order for the more substantial pieces of wood to catch fire, the kindling must burn first. In order for us to liberate the energy of our strength, our weakness must first have a chance to reveal itself.

Mouthful of Forevers by Clementine von Radics

Posted: September 28, 2013 in Poetry
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I am not the first person you loved.
You are not the first person I looked at
with a mouthful of forevers. We
have both known loss like the sharp edges
of a knife. We have both lived with lips
more scar tissue than skin. Our love came
unannounced in the middle of the night.
Our love came when we’d given up
on asking love to come. I think
that has to be part
of its miracle.

This is how we heal.
I will kiss you like forgiveness. You
will hold me like I’m hope. Our arms
will bandage and we will press promises
between us like flowers in a book.
I will write sonnets to the salt of sweat
on your skin. I will write novels to the scar
of your nose. I will write a dictionary
of all the words I have used trying
to describe the way it feels to have finally,
finally found you.

And I will not be afraid
of your scars.

I know sometimes
it’s still hard to let me see you
in all your cracked perfection,
but please know:
whether it’s the days you burn
more brilliant than the sun
or the nights you collapse into my lap
your body broken into a thousand questions,
you are the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen.
I will love you when you are a still day.
I will love you when you are a hurricane.

Life will break…

Posted: September 11, 2013 in Quotes
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Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.

– by Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum

  • His teaching was not intended to bring comfort but to shake people into awareness of the dangerous state of the world for which every individual was responsible since, according to him, every individual was the world in microcosm.
  • For discipleship, it was necessary to take leaps in the dark, to live dangerously, to feel strongly enough to be able to jump out of the window, to change oneself radically.
  • You must struggle for the same freedom. There must be constant turmoil within… I wish I could invent a new language but as I cannot I would like to destroy your old phraseology and conceptions. No one can give you liberation, you have to find it within… Liberation is not for the few, the chosen, the select.
  • You cannot help until you yourself are beyond the need of help.
  • Truth does not give hope; it gives understanding… If you would seek the Truth you must go out, far away from the limitations of the human mind and heart and there discover it – and that Truth is within yourself. Is it not much simpler to make Life itself the goal than to have mediators, gurus, who must inevitably step down the Truth and hence betray it? … Do not quote me afterwards as an authority. I refuse to be your crutch.
  • Of course there is neither good nor evil. Good is that of which you are not afraid; evil is that of which you are afraid. So, if you destroy fear, you are spiritually fulfilled… When you are in love with life, and you place that love before all things, and judge by that love, and not by your fear, then this stagnation which you call morality will disappear.
  • I maintain that Truth is a pathless land, and you cannot approach it by any path whatsoever, by any religion, by any sect. That is my point of view and I adhere to that absolutely and unconditionally… If you first understand that, then you will see how impossible it is to organize a belief. A belief is purely an individual matter, and you cannot and must not organize it. If you do, it becomes dead, crystallized; it becomes a creed, a sect, a religion, to be imposed on others.
  • Truth cannot be brought down, rather the individual must make the effort to ascend to it.
  • The moment you follow someone you cease to follow Truth.
  • I want to do something in the world and I’m going to do it with unwavering concentration.
  • Pure love is like the perfume of the rose, given to all. The sun does not care on whom it shines…
  • Look, one must have no beliefs or even ideas for they belong to all kinds of reactions and responses… if you are alert, free from ideas, beliefs, etc. in the present, then you can see infinitely and this perception is joy.
  • In everything, in all men, there is the totality, the completeness of life… By completeness I mean freedom of consciousness, freedom from individuality. That completeness which exists in everything cannot progress: it is absolute. The effort to acquire is futile, but if you can realize that Truth, happiness, exists in all things and that the realization of that Truth lies only through elimination, then there is a timeless understanding… By continually being self-recollected you become fully conscious, and then you liberate the mind and the heart and know harmony, which is completeness.
  • On the problem of sex: It has become a problem because there is no love. When we really love there is no problem, there is an adjustment, an understanding. It is only when we have lost the sense of true affection, that profound love in which there is no sense of possessiveness, that there arises the problem of sex. It is only when we have completely yielded ourselves to mere sensation that there are many problems concerning sex. As the majority of people have lost the joy of creative thinking, naturally they turn to the sensation of sex which becomes a problem, eating their minds and hearts away.
  • Choiceless awareness
    • Choice implies direction, an action of the will. K, as he explained it, was talking about awareness from moment to moment of all that was taking place inside oneself without any effort to change or direct it. It was a matter of pure observation, of looking, which would lead to self-transformation without effort.
  • No social reform would ever end human misery; people would always transform any new system into what they themselves were; throughout history every utopian revolutionary movement had reverted to the old order of things because the people in them had not changed at all; society of any kind was the result of the individual and the individual was the result of the society; the individual was you and me; society could not be transformed from the outside; it could be transformed only by transforming totally the human being, by each one of us, within himself.
  • There is a maturity that is not to be forced, not to be artificially stimulated.
  • One must be an individual, sane and balanced, not belonging to any race, country or to any particular ideology. Then perhaps sanity and peace will come back to the world.
  • Without changing our daily life we can’t have peace, and war is a spectacular expression of our daily conduct.
  • Thought inevitably breeds the feeling of ownership, that possessiveness which consciously or unconsciously cultivates jealousy. Where jealousy is, obviously love is not; and yet with most people, jealousy is taken as an indication of love… Thought is the greatest hindrance to love.
    • We fill our hearts with the things of the mind and therefore keep our hearts ever empty and expectant. It is the mind that clings, that is envious, that holds and destroys… We do not love and let it alone, but crave to be loved; we give in order to receive, which is the generosity of the mind and not of the heart. The mind is ever seeking certainty, security; and can love be made certain by the mind? Can the mind, whose very essence is of time, catch love, which is its own eternity?
  • The ignorant man is not the unlearned but he who does not know himself, and the learned man is stupid when he relies on books and knowledge and on authority to give him understanding. Understanding comes only through self-knowledge, which is awareness of one’s total psychological process. Thus education, in the true sense, is the the understanding of oneself, for it is in each of us that the whole of existence is gathered.
  • How necessary it is to die each day, to die each minute to everything, to the many yesterdays and to the moment that has just gone by! Without death there is no renewing, without death there is no creation. The burden of the past gives rise to its own continuity, and the worries of yesterday give new life to the worries of today.
    • The past and the unknown do not meet at any point; they cannot be brought together by any act whatsoever; there is no bridge to cross over nor a path that leads to it. The two has never met and will never meet. The past has to cease for the unknowable, for that immensity to be.
    • To be free of authority, of your own and that of another, is to die to everything of yesterday, so that your mind is always fresh, always young, innocent, full of vigor and passion.
  • As the eyes were closed, the body, the brain seemed to plunge into unfathomable depths, into states of incredible sensitivity and beauty.
  • The urge for the repetition of experience, however pleasant, beautiful, fruitful, is the soil in which sorrow grows.
    • It’s the thing that every human craves for and because they crave it, it eludes them.
  • Truth cannot be exact. What can be measured is not truth. That which is not living can be measured and its height be found.
  • … whether one found a talk more or less meaningful depended more on one’s own state of receptivity than on what he said.
  • It was the escape from loneliness that brought sorrow, not the fact of loneliness, of death; grief was self-pity, not love.
  • The self looks at all its inner states of being with its own conditioned mind and therefore what it sees is a replica of itself; what we are is what we see. The conception of a superior self which can direct one’s other selves is an illusion, for there is only one self.
  • Very simply put, thought is the response of memory, the past… When thought is functioning it is the past, therefore there is no new living at all; it is the past living in the present, modifying itself and the present.
    • All continuity is thought; when there is continuity there is nothing new.
  • The bondage is the demand for its continuation.
  • The only way to avoid sorrow is to be without any resistance, to be without any movement away from sorrow, outwardly or inwardly, to remain totally with sorrow without wanting to go beyond it.
  • Substitute for thinking the act of attention – the power to look.
  • Meditation is one of the greatest arts in life – perhaps the greatest, and one cannot possibly learn it from anybody. That is the beauty of it. It has no technique and therefore no authority. When you learn about yourself, watch yourself, watch the way you walk, how you eat, what you say, the gossip, the hate, the jealousy, if you are aware of all that in yourself, without any choice, that is part of meditation.
  • Fear arises from the desire for security.
    • If there is complete psychological security there is no fear, but there can never be psychological security if one is wanting, desiring, pursuing, becoming.
    • … thought is always trying to find a place where it can abide, abide in the sense of hold. What thought creates, being fragmentary, is total insecurity. Therefore there is complete security in being absolutely nothing – which means not a thing created by thought. To be absolutely nothing means a total contradiction of everything you have learned… You know what it means to be nothing? No ambition – which does not mean that you vegetate – no aggression, no resistance, no barriers built by hurt… The security that thought has created is no security. That is the absolute truth.
  • … fear is darkness and death is light.
  •  To know is not to know and the understanding of this fact that knowledge can never solve our human problem is intelligence.
  • The very suffering transformed into passion is enormous.
  • We are using the word mind to imply the senses, the capacity to think, and the brain that stores all the memories as experience, as knowledge… Knowledge corrupts the mind. Knowledge is the movement of the past, and when the past overshadows the actual, corruption takes place… We are using the word corruption to mean that which is broken up, that which is not taken as a whole.
  • [On god] Desire cannot possibly reach it, words cannot fathom it, nor can the string of thought wind itself around it.
  • All that we have learned, all that we are , the whole content of our consciousness, is the past stored in our memory as thought, and the cluttering up of the brain with the past means that there is no true insight because everything is seen through a cloud of thought which must always be limited by the self.
  • The content of our consciousness is the common ground of all humanity… a human being living in any part of the world suffers, not only physically but also inwardly.
  • Death means the ending of the known.
  • When you’re angry, anger is you. You are not different from anger.
  • We have invented God. Thought has invented God, that is we, out of misery, despair, loneliness, anxiety, have invented that thing called God. God has not made us in his image – I wish he had. Personally I have no belief in anything. The speaker only faces what is, what are facts, the realization of the nature of every fact, every thought, every reactions – he is totally aware of all that. If you are free from fear, from sorrow, there is no need for God.
  • Meditation at that hour was freedom and it was like entering into an unknown world of beauty and quietness; it was a world without image, symbol or word, without waves of memory. Love was in the death of every minute and each death was the returning of love. It was not attachment, it had no roots; it flowered without pause and it was a flame which burnt away the borders, the carefully built fences of consciousness. Meditation was joy and with it came benediction.
  • Everything on earth, on this beautiful earth, lives, dies, comes into being and withers away. To grasp this whole movement of life requires intelligence, not the intelligence of thought, or books, or knowledge, but the intelligence of love and compassion with its sincerity.
  • Surely creation can take place only when thought is silent… Science is the movement of knowledge gathering more and more and more. The “more” is the measurement, and thought can be measured because it is a material process. Knowledge has its own limited insight, its own limited creation, but this brings conflict. We are talking about holistic perception in which the ego, the “me”, the personality, does not enter at all. Then only is there this thing called creativity. That is it.
  • And when there is an end to sorrow there is passion; not lust, not sensory stimulation, but passion.
  • To learn about, to understand, oneself, all authority must be set aside… There is nothing to be learned from anybody, including the speaker… The speaker has nothing to teach you. The speaker is merely acting as a mirror in which you can see yourself. Then when you can see yourself clearly you can discard the mirror.
  • Intelligence is common to all of us and that will bring us together, not organization. If you see the importance that each one of us is free and that freedom implies love, consideration, attention, co-operation, compassion – that intelligence is the factor to keep us together.
  • Independence without freedom is meaningless. If you have freedom you don’t need independence.
  • A religious center, not in the orthodox sense of the word; a center where a flame is living, not the ashes of it.
  • It was a question of being, not of accomplishment.
  • Creation is something that is most holy. That’s the most sacred thing in life and if you have made a mess of your life, change it. Change it today, not tomorrow. If you are uncertain find out why and be certain. If your thinking is not straight, think straight, logically. Unless all that is prepared, all that is settled, you can’t enter into this world of creation.

An Old Dream is Dead by Krishnamurti

Posted: July 23, 2013 in Book Notes
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However, by the time they reached Colombo (India) he (K) had transformed his grief into what was almost a blessing and had written a piece about Nitya (Nitya, Krishnamurti’s brother died November 1925 in California while K was enroute to India.) which was published in his editorial notes for the Herald of January 1926.

The pleasant dreams my brother and I had of the physical are over…We had great fun in life though we were of different temperaments. We somehow understood each other without effort…It was a happy life and I shall miss him physically all through this life.

An old dream is dead and a new one is being born, as a flower that pushes through the solid earth…A new strength born of suffering is pulsating in the veins and a new sympathy and understanding is being born out of the past suffering. A greater desire to see others suffer less and, if they must suffer, to see that they bear it nobly and come out of it without too many scars. I have wept but I do not want others to weep but if they do I now know what it means…On the physical plane we could be separated and now we are inseparable… As Krishnamurti I now have greater zeal, greater faith, greater sympathy and greater love for there is also in me the body, the Being, of Nityananda… I know now, with greater certainty than ever before, that there is real beauty in life, real happiness that cannot be shattered by any physical happening, a great strength which cannot be weakened by any passing event, and a great love which is permanent, imperishable and unconquerable.

Posted: June 4, 2013 in Quotes
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Someday you’ll find the right person, and you’ll learn to have a lot more confidence in yourself. That’s what I think. So don’t settle for anything less. In this world, there are things you can only do alone, and things you can only do with somebody else. It’s important to combine the two in just the right amount.

-Haruki Murakami

Posted: December 7, 2012 in Quotes
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Love is an active force. Every act of the loving one is done with the stainless mind to help, to succour, to cheer, to make the paths of others easier, smoother, and more adapted to the conquest of sorrow, the winning of highest bliss… Hate restricts; love releases. Hatred strangles; love enfranchises. Hatred brings remorse; love brings peace. Hatred agitates; love quietens, stills, calms. Hatred divides; love unites. Hatred hardens; love softens. Hatred hinders; love helps.

– Gurulugomi, Dharmapradipika